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Published: Wednesday, September 19, 2012, 12:01 a.m.
Same-sex marriage

How would my union hurt yours?

The question was recently posed regarding children being raised as gay or straight by their gay parents. (Sept. 6 letter, "Bad repercussions will be only result.") Well, I'm gay and I was raised by heterosexual parents, as were most of the gay people I've known, so in my experience, the sexuality of the parent does not dictate the sexuality of the child. What matters is that we were loved, nurtured and cared for; not indoctrinated to a particular lifestyle.
Acceptance and inclusion makes life more comfortable for all of us. If encouraged to be open and truthful about whom we love, life would be less complicated and far less frightening. Would a loving family or friend want to deny happiness to any child? Why should anyone feel limited and lessened based on whom they love?
No one has actually explained how legalizing gay marriage will be a detriment to heterosexual marriages. In what way are the two connected? If I marry a woman, how will that impact any other marriage? Would my commitment to my wife somehow detract from their commitment to their wives? If I desire to live in a mutually loving, supportive, and committed relationship, how can that be a bad thing? Why do people believe a legal gay marriage will destroy the structure of our society when strong relationships make for a strong community?
It is sad that prejudice and anger will grow as the election approaches, but the fact remains that the approval or disapproval of Referendum 74 will be at the forefront of the legislative process this year. I can only hope the majority here in Washington will not choose to deny me, or anyone, the right to a legitimate and legal marriage, so I am urging everyone to vote yes on Referendum 74.
Sidney K. Lebhart
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