Battling budget backsliding

  • By Dave Ramsey
  • Thursday, January 22, 2015 9:01am
  • Business

Dear Dave,

I’ve gotten out of debt and fallen back in several times. I want to get control of my money and stop busting my budget. How do I keep from falling back again?

— Sandi

Dear Sandi,

This is a great time of the year for changes.

Years ago when I crashed and burned financially there were a few strong emotions that spurred me towards change. One of those was disgust. I realized that what I was doing was stupid, and that I was tired of living that way. I made a conscious, proactive decision that things were going to be different.

The second emotion was fear. I was scared to death that I’d be broke for the rest of my life. I don’t think you should ever live your life in fear, but a reasonable, healthy level of fear can be a terrific motivator.

The third thing was contentment. Marketers try to sell us on the idea that we’ll be happier if we just go out and buy things. One of the practical things I did was to stop going places where I was tempted to spend money. When you have to go out, make a list of only the things you need and take just enough cash with you to make the purchase. Spending money on a bunch of stuff you don’t need, and probably don’t really want, isn’t going to bring you contentment.

— Dave

Dear Dave,

I’m trying to get out of debt, but it seems like something unexpected always happens to knock me back down. I’m single, make $45,000 a year, and I have $12,000 in debt, in addition to a mortgage payment of $1,124 a month. I’ve been trying to live on a budget, but I still don’t know where all the money goes.

Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

For starters, your house payment is kind of heavy. I always recommend that your monthly mortgage payment be no more than 25 percent of your take-home pay. Still, the biggest thing is that you’ve got to get control of your money instead of letting it control you.

I want you to sit down every month, before the next month begins, and write it all down on paper, on purpose. Give every single dollar a name, and tell your money what to do. Once you’ve done this, the idea of “trying to live on a budget” stops being some vague idea floating around out there and becomes a real game plan for your money!

— Dave

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